Single on Valentine’s? Can’t approach your crush? Not sure what present to give? Hewitt Times can help! Submit your dilemma here, and then check back soon for our responses. Submissions are completely anonymous to both the editors and the general public unless you choose to include your name as a part of your message. Please note that due to the overwhelming number of submissions and the intent to maintain the lighthearted, appropriate tone of this column, we may be unable to respond to your inquiry. We apologize for any inconveniences.

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I am really attracted to my close family friend. He is only a year older than me, but I’m pretty sure he thinks of me as a sister, not “girlfriend material”. How do I change his view? Help!!

First things first make it clear that you’re into him. Be BOLD. Maybe you don’t need to change his view but rather make the first move. Best of luck. 
XO Paloma & The Hewitt Times

Whenever a guy comes onto me I immediately say I’m a feminist and inquire if he’s one too. They always seem to be turned off by this, but I want to make it clear what my values are. What do I do to show him my intentions while not seeming slightly militant? I’M A STRONG INDEPENDENT HEWITT GIRL.

From one feminist to another:
being a feminist is great, and it is important for you to establish that about yourself and call him out on sexist behavior. You should never have to get your feelings hurt trying to protect a boy’s feelings. That’s oppressive, no? Honestly, the right guy will get it. He will understand that you need to say you’re a feminist because women are still oppressed in relationships and society in both subtle and overt ways. I’m sure you’re #woke, so you cannot be with someone who is #asleep. You are strong and independent and stay that way. If a guy is not okay with that, he is trying to exert more power on you rather than be your equal. Not okay. #girlpower

XO Chelsea & The Hewitt Times

My friends like to interrogate me about not feeling the bern, both guys and girls. I really am not doing this millennial thing well. I’m sick of constantly having to explain why I don’t feel the bern. How do I shut down bern convos?

If you’re friends don’t respect the fact that you don’t feel the bern you should confront them. Remember you will be the only one in the voting booth. JUST DO YOU 
XO Paloma & The Hewitt Times 

I’m a guy with a real problem. My girlfriend of 3 years (basically all of high school) has this REALLY weird rash. She hasn’t really said anything about it but it’s really noticeable. I love her but only want her to be healthy. She’s been really distant and that bothers me because I think she realizes the seriousness of the rash. Lately, she always says she’s at her grandmas house. that worries me too because I don’t want her grandma and her grandmas cat to get a rash either. How do I confront her and tell her that I’m genuinely concerned?

Maybe take her to a doctor or suggest she go to one? You could also webMD it here: http://www.webmd.com/
Also, keep an eye on the cat!
XO Samantha & The Hewitt Times 

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hi…. my name is weow…. I have a secret…………………….I love wexi!😊

Shout out to @Lexi! Your boyfriend’s so sweet!  ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥
XO Samantha and The Hewitt Times

I’ve been hooking up with this guy but I want us to be more than just hook up buddies. The problem is, I can’t tell if he’s into me like that! How do I find out in a sly way?

I said BURRRRRRRRRR it’s cold in here– there must be some trouble in the atmosphere.
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Stop hooking up with him for about a week or so, and if he comes gobbling back, stand your ground–No hook up if we’re not shacked up. If he is really into you, then he will understand your desire for commitment, but if he is not into you, he will ditch you for the next gal.
XO Chelsea & The Hewitt Times

This is a genuine male looking for the opinions and perspectives of females. I have a problem.My girlfriend and I have been together for a few months, and things have gone rather well until now. Every day is a constant battle, perpetuated by my cowardice, my fear of confronting the issue. Every time I go over to her house, her pet rat is there. It’s harmless, it doesn’t bite or anything like that; that’s not the problem. I have an issue with my girlfriend’s affection towards this rat. She is always making out with this rat. I spend a lot of time sitting and waiting for her attention, while consciously ignoring the weird rodent hook up noises emanating from the Rat Room (where the rat lives, and where these activities take place). One time, my girlfriend and I were snuggling, and this rat emerged from her cleavage, and it was WET. It was a wet rat, and I don’t know how it was wet and I prefer not to ponder it. Not only am I starved of my own girlfriend’s attention, but I also feel like I’m getting in the way of her peculiar zoophilous desires. In other words, I’m distrusting the beautiful nature of bestiality. I do not know what to do. Do I let her go? Do I incorporate the Rat into the relationship? Do I get a rat of my own? I’m lost. Also, I am going to choose to remain anonymous because I do not want to be…ratted out. Thank you.

I don’t know what to say, except get him a bird!
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XO Brianna & The Hewitt Times

How to get a boyfriend when you have no social life??? THANKS <3

Go check out Tinder. That way, you can meet guys without having to get out of bed or go anywhere. Also, don’t let the guys know that! Just be confident and go get ’em girl.
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(That could be you)
XO Carly & the Hewitt Times

HELP, I THINK I’M IN LOVE. How do I approach this guy, he’s perfect!
(ps. …he’s actually Ryan Gosling)

I can see why 😛First, you’ve gotta take down Eva Mendes. But, being a homewrecker isn’t worth a hot guy!
XO Sabrina and the Hewitt Times

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I’m so sick of that same old love, that stuff, it tears me up. I’m so sick of that same old love, my body’s had enough.Oh, I’m so sick of that same old love, feels like I’ve blown apart. I’m so sick of that same old love, the kind that breaks your heart. What should I do?

Find a new love song. ❤️🎶

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Try this link:
http://top40.about.com/od/top10lists/tp/top100lovesongs.htm
XO Samantha & The Hewitt Times 

What do you think are the clubs that attract the hottest boys? I am going to college next year and want to join clubs where there will be cute boys for me to befriend!

Well it depends on your type but basically its pretty simple.

  • If you want fit guys with muscles go to the sports clubs
  • If you want smart and nerdish guys do the chess, science, or math clubs
  • If you want artsy guys do the a cappella, art, or theater clubs
  • And so on and so on

But honestly I think you’ll find the guys you want to meet naturally, so my best advice is to do the clubs you want and the cutest guys in there will also have the same interests as you. So just do your own stuff and let the hotties come to you!

XO Bella & The Hewitt Times 

how do i spice things up in the bedroom???

To spice things up in the bedroom, you should decorate your room and get creative in the ways you decide to carry on the night. It’s up to you to make the first move and start the off on the right foot.
XO Maggie and The Hewitt Times

I keep downloading dating apps and no one likes me. No one is matching me back. Help! How will I find a prom date or cuddle bud?
xoxo

You should go out and meet people in person! It’s important to show your true self instead of hiding behind a camera. It will be hard to find a prom date and someone that you want to get close with without having your first encounter be in person!
XO Maggie and The Hewitt Times

Hi chloe,
I’ve been in a group of friends for a long time now & they are so sh***y to me, I have another group of friends I could go to but how do I leave the group I’m in while still staying civil?
Thanks!!! xoxox

It seems like you are still torn between these two groups of friends. You should make up your mind and figure out who your true friends are and then stick with them. I would just straight out leave the bad friends and join the new ones because you have to be clear with your decisions and not send out mixed messages.
XO Maggie and The Hewitt Times

How do I get Bae to mention me to his or her parents?

Assert yourself! Stay over at Bae’s house more and more to push your way into Bae’s fam. Or, you could just flat out ask Bae to finally showcase you to his fam. You’re sure to be the star-child!

XO Sabrina & The Hewitt Times

I like this guy but I don’t know if he likes me back! What are some things that he would do if he liked me?

Here are some things to look for next time you see him:
1) Is he mirroring your actions?
2) Maybe he told his friends that he likes you. Watch how they behave. 
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3) Test this out: “If you want to “test out” whether he’s attracted to you, try this: Look over his face for around 3 to 4 seconds (don’t make it awkward and hold it too long!) and then look away. After a second, look back at him – if he holds eye contact with you he’s definitely interested. If he glances towards your mouth he’s really interested. However, if he breaks eye contact and looks away, he’s probably not into you.” – See more at: http://www.vixendaily.com/love/know-if-a-guy-likes-you/#sthash.toC07IBN.dpuf

4) Take this quiz!
http://www.anewmode.com/quiz/does-he-like-me-quiz/
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xo Samantha & The Hewitt Times ❤️

Help I am in love with the wonderful man who gives me chicken nuggets and penne. How do I make him love me?

You just have to tell him , “Yo amo tu penne.” That makes any wonderful man happy, and he will keep giving you cookies, chicken alfredo, cute smiles, and intense stares in the elevator. Since we’re on the topic of food, which eggplant is your favorite? You can make eggplant parmesan 😉

XO Chelsea & The Hewitt Times 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So…. I’m going to the bahamas and I want to meet cute boys there but how do I talk to them??? :\\ sometimes cute boys can be intimidating. What should be my opening line?!

Always remember you should be the intimidating one, don’t let them smell your fear! (It’s unattractive)! Before going up to a guy, imagine yourself as Beyonce, and be confident and likable. When you walk up to him just start a normal conversation like any other person, and remind yourself that one mistake doesn’t mean its over; and even if it is don’t stress because you still got countless other cute guys and after all you’re in the BAHAMAS SO LIVE. IT. UP.
XO Bella & The Hewitt Times 
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What spring sport do guys find the cutest?

SQUASH!  Although it’s usually a winter sport, what guy doesn’t love a great squash player!
Ya see👆 there are many cute guys out there wanting to play squash with you. Play squash and the guys will come crawling after you for sure!
XO Carly and the Hewitt Times
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I dated this guy last year and I ended things with him. That was the worst mistake ever! He has gotten so cool and now he will barely look at me. He used to be obsessed with me. Should I reach out to him and ask him for plans?

No! You should stick to your original decision because you had to have made it for a reason. He doesn’t seem like he is still interested in you, so you should stand back and let him do his own thing, while you do yours.
XO Maggie and The Hewitt Times

Where can i find a prom date????? (hot one obv!)

Tinder!!!
XO Sabrina & The Hewitt Times

Need a prom date SOS! How do I ask my guy friend that I’m not THAT close to?

Girl, you got this, and if he says no, it’s his loss.
XO Brianna & The Hewitt Times
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There’s this guy that I like, and we’re going out for Valentine’s Day, but I think it might be best for us to stay friends. What do I do??

Honey, there’s no shame in friend zoning. You guys can still enjoy Valentine’s Day as friends and keep it PG while having fun!
XO Sabrina and the Hewitt Times

If someone deletes me on snapchat do I have to stop talking to them?

Not necessarily. There’s obviously some bad blood in there, but maybe you guys could hash it out?
XO Sabrina & The Hewitt Times

How many times can you snap someone before they respond before you start to look obsessive? SOS

I’m on a strict 3-snap limit.
Sabrina and the Hewitt Times

My boyfriend is the sweetest guy ever and I love him so much. I feel really bad because he’s a really romantic person and I won’t be able to see him on Valentine’s Day 🙁 I won’t be in the city for President’s Day Weekend. How should I make it up to him?

So this might be super cheesy, but I’ve got two ideas. Either create your own personal Valentine’s Day next weekend with all the romantic events your day can handle, or FaceTime him most of the day and have your own virtual date. If these aren’t really your style do something romantic yourself that totally shocks him!
XO Bella & The Hewitt Times 

My boyfriend lives out of state. Every time he comes to New York, he always seems to be going on “job interviews” because he is moving back to New York shortly. However, I think he is cheating on me by doing “interviews” in other people’s homes. What should I do?

Well, seems like some shady business to me . Swoop in and grab his phone when he’s not expecting it. You just gotta do some digging to get to the bottom of this. Scroll through his messages and see what you find. Then deal with the relationship from there. Or just listen in on one of his “business” calls! Fingers crossed for no cheating!
XO Carly & The Hewitt Times 
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whats the best way to survive the rest of the school year?

Get your work done ahead of time and then… have some fun! Here are some websites where you can spend and enjoy your time.
Looking for some games to play?
http://armorgames.com/
http://www.kongregate.com/

Want to learn more about yourself?
http://app.thefacesoffacebook.com/ (looking at all Facebook profile pics, find yours)
http://playback.fm/birthday-song
http://www.playbuzz.com/TestYourself

Want the have some random fun?
http://www.theuselessweb.com/
http://www.boredbutton.com/

XO Samantha and The Hewitt Times

 

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I met this guy on tinder and when i met him in real life he asked me to do some freaky stuff. should i?

Tinder guys can be real creeps. Do whatever feels comfortable, but I wouldn’t do anything extreme.
XO Sabrina & the Hewitt Times

My NJB (nice jewish boy) hasn’t invited me to his prom yet even though I invited him to my prom. I like him as a friend and would be hurt if he took another girl to his prom but I don’t want to come off as wanting or needy because I only want him to be happy. I’ve been dropping more than subtle hints to him like sending him pictures of ugly prom dresses with the caption “I’m wearing this to your prom God-willing you invite me.” Where do I go with this next?
xxx NJG

I think that if he hasn’t taken all those hints yet he’s got to be asked more straightforward, you deserve a straight answer and he should give you one Even if it takes a couple questions to get him to understand, being needy is better than being the second choice.
XO Bella and The Hewitt Times 

Hey Love Panel,
I have small dilemma. My secret love’s mom is out to get me. I love Larry so much, but Leslie lied to the cops in a bid to get me arrested. I just don’t know what to do. Do I stay with him through my impending trial? She has a crack team of Hewitt lawyers trying to get me sentenced. Do I have to break up with him? What do i do?
-Kelly Roberts 

Shouldn’t you be behind bars right now?? I guess they have Wi-Fi in prison. Technology is amazing isn’t it? You know I’ve heard of those Hewitt lawyers too, and I wouldn’t mess with them. First, you should try to get Leslie in jail in a civil case maybe a defamation suit? maybe slander? I don’t know what these legal words mean but you get my point. Once Leslie is sued and she can’t pay, she’ll go to jail right? Sooo…you and Larry can live happily ever after poppin oxii on your honeymoon.
XO Chelsea & The Hewitt Times
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A boy I like is home from college for a short time. Do I hang out with him? or is it a waste of my time because he’ll be going back to school soon.

I think you need to determine how much you like him and if you guys have a chance of being more, if that’s what you want. I think it’s still worth it to hang out with him. At least if you hang out with him, you’ll know if you still like him or not. And who knows, maybe he’ll tell you that he likes you also. You never know where or when you’ll find love. Good luck!!!
XO Brianna & The Hewitt Times

My ex keeps sending me handwritten mail because I blocked him on social media. Should I move on ?

We would recommend it.. 
XO Lucy, Lilian, & The Hewitt Times 
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Pretty sure I won’t have a prom date senior year… Help!

That’s funny because I am in the same boat! Don’t sweat it though because prom is about getting lit with your squaaaad more than your date. Your date is only there for you to take a few pretty pictures with. And you probably don’t have a date because people are too intimidated by your beauty… at least that’s what I tell myself. Honestly, if you don’t have anyone to take who you really like, then don’t bother taking a random person off Tinder. At your last hurrah of high school, you should be surrounded by someone who cares about you and who you care about too.  Ain’t nothing wrong with being single!

XO Chelsea & The Hewitt Times

I’m in love with this girl but she won’t give me a chance, so I’ve been dating girls that kind of look like her. But they don’t answer when I call them her name. What should I do?

Well…if this girl really won’t take you back then I think that it is time to move on. Give this new girl a chance for who she is and remember to say her name. Watch this for help: www.youtube.com/watch?v=v1c2OfAzDTI
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What are fun things to do today if I don’t have a date?

Trust me, we all have been in that situation. NOTHING is better than curling up with a blanket, a pack of double stuf Oreos, and watching a rom com (my favorite is Friends With Benefits). And remember, there’s nothing wrong with spending some quality time with yourself! 
Also, just dedicate the day to Netflix, because that’s always the answer!
XO Carly and The Hewitt Times 
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OKAY SO THERE IS THIS GUY I LIKE AND I THINK HE LIKES ME BACK BUT I’M NOT SURE. WHAT SHOULD I DO???

You should tell him how you feel, be confident and take charge! You’ll regret it if you don’t take a chance, so just count to three and GO FOR IT!
XO Bella & The Hewitt Times 
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Hi Guys. So a couple months ago I had this thing with a guy, but then we broke it off. Shortly afterwards, he started dating one of my friends. Today I get a text from him asking if we can start going out again. What should I do??

Hi! Think about your feelings for this person, do you still want to be with them? Think about how your actions will affect your friend..if it will ruin your friendship, then I wouldn’t go for it. Do you really want to take him back? Good luck!!
XO Lucy, Lilian, & The Hewitt Times 

How do I make milkshakes good enough to bring boys to the yard???????
Sincerely, desperate

I could teach you, but I’d have to charge $$$ Go to Black Tap (.)(.)
XO Chelsea & The Hewitt Times

How many boys is too many boys in one night?

Girl (or guy), do you! Only do what you feel comfortable with though! and be safe!
XO Brianna & The Hewitt Times

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There’s a girl that I’ve been flirting with over text, but she has a boyfriend. Should we go on a double date to prove to her that I am better suited than he?
Sincerely lonely.

Boy, quit playing. Don’t mess with that stuff. A two-timing girl is not worth it! Instead, expose her and save her boyfriend from any grief. Better to be lonely than with a shady girl …
XO Sabrina & the Hewitt Times

I have potential love interests and they’re all interested in me, but I can’t bring myself to choose. I don’t want to ruin another friendship by choosing the wrong person.

If you feel as though you’re better off as friends with them, keep it that way. Friendzoning is necessary! But, if your heart’s in it for a person, go with your gut.
XO Sabrina and the Hewitt Times

SOS I’m in love with a certain new teacher. What should I do?

That’s inapropro…move on…you can do better 
XO Lucy, Lilian, and the Hewitt Times

Last week I met this guy on Tinder and he wants to meet in person this week. He looks SO cute and he seems so nice. SHOULD I GO??!

YA, go for it! Have an awesome time, just be yourself and see if he’s as cute in real life as he is in his pictures!
XO
Bella & The Hewitt Times 

Should I hold out for Mr Right or should I lower my standards?

That’s 100% your choice. If you want to go for it, go for it. You can’t be expected to wait around for the perfect guy forever! Some of us will experience some of the worst/blandest relationships, but we all get a good experience from it.

Do whatever feels right!
XO Sabrina & The Hewitt Times

I dated this guy last year and I ended things with him. That was the worst mistake ever! He has gotten so cool and now he will barely look at me. He used to be obsessed with me. Should I reach out to him and ask him for plans?

Take a chance on romance! There’s no harm in going back to a guy who’s gotten suave since you’ve ended things. While it’s great to try and get back with him, just remember, there was a reason why you left him in the first place.

XO Sabrina & the Hewitt Times

Just started trying this new app Tastebubs ;). I gave up on the Tinder life. How do I become the 1% of successful love stories?

Sounds like an undiscovered app. Better spice up that bio and make sure to seem super interesting. And remember, always be yourself!

XO Sabrina & The Hewitt Times 

I REALLY like this guy and I want to have a thing with him, but I have never had my first kiss! Any advice???
THANKS!!

Hey lady!! Well, this sure is a toughie.

Step 1- Have confidence Step 2- Lure him in Step 3- Make the first move. Just go for it! Follow these simple steps and you’re sure to reel him in! As long as you don’t follow the picture, you’ll be good to go 🙂

XO Sabrina,Carly & The Hewitt Times

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